Monday, December 15, 2008

sorry it has been so long in between posts...

time is flying by and this last month has been in a bit of an upheaval since Thanksgiving. My beloved grandmother passed away December 3rd and when I look at today's date I can hardly believe it is the 15th. Grieving has a way of warping time. It slows everything down while at the same time, of course time is still going by. I dedicated a post to my grandma on my Long Island Daily Photo blog about the christening outfit you can see here the day we laid Grandma to rest. Since then I have been concentrating on getting my son through his finals at school and keeping our family on a "normal" schedule. It's hard to keep things in perspective around Christmas time. I think the dilemma is we all want to make sure we show our loved ones how much we care about them by acknowledging them with gifts and such while at the same time one wants to keep the season of giving real.
I came upon the sage advice listed below while visiting Lydia's clutterquake. I wrote the original blogger Buddha of Hollywood, for permission to reprint it here. So thanks Lydia & BoH.

I Hope this helps you, my dear readers, with your holiday time management. It is certainly helping me. here it is:

How to Accomplish More

Also known as the 4D recipe.

It goes like this: Divide, Delegate, Do, Dump.

1) DIVIDE “The universe is made of atoms. If you can move an atom, you can move the universe.” Before starting any task, divide it up in smaller parts – even if you think you can do it all at once.

2) DELEGATE Have some one else do the work for you. A co worker, a professional or specialist, family members, relatives, friends etc.

3) DO If you can’t delegate the work, it is time for you to do it. If it seems too big, complicated or hard to do, go back to steps 1 & 2. If you can’t divide your task in smaller parts and can’t find anybody to delegate, go to step 4.

4) DUMP “The art of winning is the art of managing your loses”. I’ve seen so many people stuck in failed, dysfunctional relationships or dead end jobs, not knowing when and how to quit.

Time is the most valuable asset you have. So, stop wasting time on dead ends and move on to a new task.

This picture was taken at a Grumman's craft show. Go here for the complete story on this photo...unless you've seen it already.


Elizabeth said...

So sorry to hear about the death of your grandmother.
Hope time will help you remember the good and happy memories.

tara @ kidz said...

That photos is cool, I'm going to check out the story. Merry Christmas!

annette said...

Hi Lily, sorry to hear of your grandmother passing away, a sad time, i'm sure. I have just written that last sentence into my book of quotes, will make a good title for a scrap page. Hope you have a good week ahead and get time to enjoy the festivities of the season in this crazy busy life we lead, :0)

Anonymous said...

Merry Christmas in Bloggyland!

Janeen said...

Came by on the Christmas Tour to visit you. Oh my sweet friend, sorry to hear the news ~ but I'm happy that your precious Grandma got her heavenly promotion! (as I like to say it :) Take one day at a time.

It was great to meet a new friend! bye!

Lydia said...

I am back after going to your other blog to read your tribute and to find out more about your wonderful grandmother. Thank you so much for sharing about her. I really feel the love.
Thanks for giving me credit for the piece in my other blog. BoH has helped me this season to be much more mellow.

MmeBenaut said...

Lily, grieving a grandmother is tough and I'm sorry that you've lost yours, particularly at such a busy time of school exams and Christmas preparations.
My grandmother raised me between the ages of 2 and 6; she was 60 when I was born so that was quite a feat I think. She made all of my clothes, sewed, knitted and crocheted. She took me to kindergarten and to the dentist. I adored her even though she was incredibly strict. She was 99 when she died and I cried bucketloads. I still miss her and think of her often. I don't think that grieving ever ends but it does get easier with time.

I love the 4D philosophy. I'm going to employ it this weekend and also on Christmas Day!