Wednesday, February 27, 2008
"Striving for perfection is the greatest stopper there is.… It's your excuse to yourself for not doing anything. Instead, strive for excellence, doing your best."
– Sir Laurence Olivier
When I was younger I had a bad habit of perfectionism. Now I welcome imperfections. Not that I don't want to do things right. It's just that I have found I do not have the time to be perfect. I can't begin to tell you how happy that makes me feel to realize that this is true for me.
I don't know how I got on this mailing list, but every day I receive a daily inspiration when I open my email. Upon reading Sir Laurence, I had an "aha" moment realizing I am most happiest when I am doing my best.
The funny thing is I may not even like what I am doing. It could be the most mundane chore. It also doesn't seem to matter if I am succeeding or not. It just feels like there is a special energy that seems to make everything brighter when I am engaged in what I am doing, when I am spiritually, consciously, mindfully living. It could be walking my dog Priscilla or trying to finish a quick run before Ian's bus gets home, it could be cooking dinner, or taking photographs.
Monday, February 25, 2008
So what have I learned? I have learned to:
- Acknowledge & appreciate the positive past
- Use positive self talk
- Acknowledge & build on my strengths
- Clarify my vision & my purpose
- Set measurable goals & objectives
These are the first five of 10 steps to success my WW leader shared with us last Saturday. The first step has special meaning for me because I have found if I do not acknowledge my successes I tend to spiral down into negative thinking which doesn't help me at all. So this week my goal is to carry these first five steps around with me as I go about my business of being a success. I am also keeping an accurate food journal. I am exercising everyday & I am drinking the proper amount of water I need too. I am also taking all of my vitamins & making sure I get enough sleep. The weeks when I have followed these guidelines are the weeks when I have felt great even if I only lost .2 pounds.
A dream is a goal with a deadline- author unknown
Friday, February 22, 2008
Has anyone ever heard of this movement? In the summer of 2006 Rev. Will Bowen spoke about the negative effects of complaining & suggested that his congregation wear a purple bracelet for 21 days. The idea is to challenge yourself to make a true change of attitude. Bowen explains on his website that scientists say it takes 21 days to break a habit & he believes if you commit to this, you will see a marked change in your attitude while achieving greater serenity. The bracelet serves as a reminder so that if you find yourself about to complain you can stop yourself before you do so while at the same time switching the bracelet to your other wrist.
When I first heard about this I thought about how I am not much of a complainer then I realized something that in retrospect is so obvious-I complain about myself too myself. Although I have grown tremendously in this area of my life, when I thought about this idea I found that for me it would be a great act of self love if I tried to break this habit for 21 days. Besides I am sure I will find that I complain in other ways I am not even aware of simply out of habit.
You can order bracelets on Bowen's website. They are free, you only have to pay a nominal shipping fee.
So if you would like to do your part in spreading world peace, feel more serene, & begin to examine all that is good in your life I encourage you to check this out for yourself. I found the Lives Changed testimonials on Will Bowen's homepage inspiring. You may click here if you'd like to check out Bowen's site.
"If you don't like something change it.
If you can't change it change your attitude; Don't complain."
Thursday, February 21, 2008
Wednesday, February 20, 2008
Late last Sunday morning I decided (after all of my imbibing the night before) I better get myself outside for a walk. Mia & Bo just came in from the cold & decided it was best to take a nap. Besides, they were up since 5AM.
My husband decided to join me for part of the way. Check out these trees against the snow & sky.
What is it about a red barn inside a winter landscape that looks so perfect?
Or a frozen pond that makes you want to learn how to ice skate?
Walking through nature is like meditating without having to try & relax. I just naturally relax & I notice a feeling of peace inside as I observe all the beauty surrounding me.
I love the textures & contrasting colors.
Look at this...
Pretty cool huh?
Please click on this photo above if you would like to see the sheep up close.
Tuesday, February 19, 2008
Thursday, February 14, 2008
please click on painting for better detail
I was married just a little over a year when I did this pastel painting for a college assignment. & after 25 years of being married to this man who is my soulmate- I want to say that if you are in love with someone, love them. If someone tells you that you are too young or that you should do this or you should do that, don't listen to them. Just love whoever you love-because in the end Love is really, truly all you ever need.
Tuesday, February 12, 2008
Monday, February 11, 2008
When my mom gave me the book , The Gift of Fear, I really didn't want to read it. Not percieving fear as a gift but as a hinderance to living life fully, I thought, why would I want to read a book entitled as such?
As I began to read, I soon realized this book is so not about what my initial perception was. This book is one of the most enlightening & empowering books a woman can read-or a man for that matter. I urge each & every person to RUN to your nearest book provider & get a copy of this book & begin to read it immediately.
The authors name is Gavin De Becker who was recently featured on Oprah. Mr De Becker has done pioneering work in violence prevention. Much of his work is centered around intuition- which to me makes it all the more interesting. Since I do believe we all posess the power of intuition I find myself wondering why most of us rarely use it. After starting this book I think the simple answer is we just don't know how. I for one never considered myself a good people "reader". In fact I can recall saying many a time that I am not good at "reading" people. I am not even halfway through this book & I can tell you, I will never doubt my feelings of fear or my perceptions of other people again. Gavin De Becker sites numerous examples of how people know so much more than they give themselves credit for when it comes to other peoples behaviour only to convince themselves otherwise thereby putting themselves in harms way. Gavin teaches us through true stories, techniques we can use to empower & protect ourselves & our families.
I am finding it a gripping read, & it's out in paperback, so get your copy today!
"People should learn to see and so avoid all danger. Just as a wise man keeps away from mad dogs, so one should not make friends with evil men."-Buddha
Wednesday, February 6, 2008
So after 8 years I believe I now can see my way around our bathroom! Which let's face it, this has its pluses & minuses.
The mini "renovation" is going slowly. After finally removing all of the stalactites from the cieling I had to do copious amounts of sanding. This was pretty gross. The floor, my uncovered skin & parts of my scalp had an inch thick layer of fine powdered spackle. We are trying to make the cieling look smooth enough without actually replacing it.
In between this process of sanding spackling & sanding yet again, the lights were installed, (by my multi-talented hubby-who I am convinced can figure out pretty much anything in this old house of ours) -the beautiful lights, lights like I have never seen before, dare I say, lights like no other...lights that when lit, brighten everything, casting a warm glow in what used to be a cold dark bathroom. A wonderful side effect of this newfound light is that the yellow color they give off makes you feel like we have real heat in the room!
Enclosed I have included some photographs so that you can get a bit of an impression of what our little bathroom used to look like before it is finished.
The sink in the photo below below looks darker here because the light over the sink hasn't yet arrived.
We plan on painting the bottom of the tub a much deliberated (is this a word?) choice of color.
"I will love the light for it shows me the way, yet I will endure the darkness because it shows me the stars."-Og Mandino
Monday, February 4, 2008
Sunday, February 3, 2008
"Every blade of grass has its angel that bends over it and whispers, "Grow, grow."-The Talmud quotes
I don't know if you remember in my past posts how I've written about angels whispering in my ears at times. This usually happens when I am in the midst of trying to figure out something important. I'll think I am doing everything I possibly can to do the right thing. It's not like I really think I can figure it all out anyway. Let's just say, I'll be doing the best that I can. Then suddenly I get a thought in my head & I think of whatever I am working on in a different light. Out of nowhere an idea comes to me in a way I haven't thought of. I feel compelled to listen & many new ideas follow. This I believe is when the angels start to whisper. I had to share this with you because I believe in God & I think he gave us free will so we can grow in this life. I believe he wants the best for us & when he sees us struggling, he sends his angels with messages he wants us to hear. Most of the time it's hard to listen because I'm just a human, but that doesn't mean I don't try to remember too. When I do listen, I always try to remember to thank God & my angels.
When Ian was trying to figure out what high school to go to, it was very dificult. In fact he still may get other opportunities before the end of this school year. For now though, he has to meet certain deadlines. St. Anthony's & Chaminade are excellent schools. Two major factors were their size & their music program. Also Ian has an older cousin who graduated from Chaminade (& is doing amazingly well in college I must add) who took the time to answer some of his important concerns. What also helped finalize Ian's decision were two very special teachers that have been working with him since he was five, who gently pointed out some things he might consider. Just after leaving his music lesson Friday night, we sat in the car for quite some-time in the pouring rain outside of Chaminade High School still deliberating the pros & cons of each school. After calling his Dad one last time & trying to decide, Ian handed the phone to me. As I spoke with his Dad, 2 minutes later Ian simply got out of the car and stood in the park looking around.
"Anthony, he just got out of the car, I think he's had it."
"What's he doing?" my husband inquired.
"I don't know, maybe he thinks we are going inside." I said.
"Oh, you poor guys." my husband replied.
By this time at least it was just drizzling. Then in an instant Ian calmly and confidently opened the car door, poked his head inside and said, "You know, I'm going to go to Chaminade." and with that, he shut the door.
It must have been the angels.
Friday, February 1, 2008
http://www.knowledgeunlimited.com/ this actually turned out to be a school supply website. After I read this again online, I thought it seemed like it was filled with good thoughts anyone could apply to themselves whether they write or not.
the only 12 1/2 writing rules you'll ever need
1. If you write every day, you get better at writing every day. 2. If it's boring to you, it's boring to your reader 3. Get a writing routine, and stick with it. 4.Poetry does NOT have to rhyme. Poetry does NOT have to rhyme. 5. Resist stereotypes, in real life and in your writing. 6. Writers read, writers read a lot, writers read all the time. 7.Make lists of your favorite words and books and places and things. 8.There doesn't always have to be a moral to the story. 9.Always bring your notebook, always bring a spare pen. 10. Go for walks. Dance. Pull weeds. Do the dishes. Write about it. 11. Don't settle on just one style. Try something new! 12. Learn to tell both sides of the story. 12 1/2. Stop looking at this poster. Write something!