Tuesday, April 7, 2009

The Love Dare

I gave this book, The Love Dare to my husband for Valentines Day with a promise to take the dare as my gift to him. That was nearly two months ago & I've completed two dares so far. The idea is to do a dare a day for forty days. I however, am taking the dares one day at a time whenever I have the opportunity. Still, I think it may be more effective if I do them closer together.
The first one was easy for me. I was to say nothing negative to my spouse for an entire day. It is rare that I say anything negative to my husband. That is not to say I didn't monitor myself for the day, just in case. You are supposed to journal after you complete the dare, so I found this dare rather anti-climatic since it wasn't all that unusual an experience.

The second dare was to repeat the first dare while adding at least one unexpected act of kindness. At first I thought, I am kind every day, what's the big deal? & then of course it hit me, an unexpected act of kindness, oh yeah, I get it.
It took me a week to think of a good one, finally! and then I waited for the weekend when hubby usually cleans the bathroom, but I cleaned it instead, right after I bathed Priscilla, something else H likes me to do & he loved it. He was so appreciative. & I felt happy inside.

Here is a little excerpt from the book;
Initiative. kindness thinks ahead, then takes the first step. It doesn't sit around waiting to be prompted or coerced before getting off the couch. The kind husband or wife will be the one who greets first, smiles first, serves first, and forgives first. They don't require the other to get his or her act together before showing love. When acting from kindness, you see the need, then make your move. First.
Good stuff, eh?


Dreams2009 said...

I watched the movie FireProof last month (I enjoyed it) and also purchased the Love dare book. To be honest I only opened the book once. I just saw your blog and now will definitely pull it out and start up on it again. ;)

Tessa said...

Oh what a lovely post, Lily, and really thought-provoking. Unexpected acts of kindness are precious indeed.